Marriage is for matured minds and there are lots of wrong steps and decisions which couples take and adopt towards each other. Maturity is not a function of age only. It goes beyond age.
Thirty nine of the foolish things that couples do in marriage which hastens the breakdown of the relationship are as follows:
- Malice
-Rejecting food because you are angry with your wife
-Abusing each other
-Reporting each other to third parties
-Sexual denial
-Hatred and loveless
-Failure to provide for the family
-Nagging and murmuring
-Night crawling
-Failure to apologize when wrong
-Failure to pray with your spouse
-Failure to forgive your spouse
-Embarrassing your spouse openly
-Comparing your spouse with others
-Loving your siblings and parents more than your spouse
-Failing to go for counseling when the marriage is in trouble
-Failing to stay committed to your marriage
-Thinking about or considering divorce as an option
-Keeping things secret from your spouse
-Threatening to separate from, or divorce your spouse
-Shouting or raising your voice during discussions
-Arguments which no one is ready to lose
-Taking credit for any good thing and not giving any to your spouse
-Selfishness and self-centredness
-Allowing friends and family to direct the affairs of your home
-Not accepting blame for a mistake
-Laziness and failure to work
-Competing with spouse at home
-Talking about your 'ex' boyfriend or girlfriend often
-Unfriendly and uncaring attitude
-Wife battery
-Stinginess, loving to receive and not willing to give
-Drunkenness
-Treating your spouse without respect
-Failure to communicate and discuss issues as they arise
-Wasteful spending
-Allowing anger, bitterness and resentment to dominate your life
-Often referring to old hurts
-Taking vengeance of every offense
-Refusing reconciliation
If you are guilty of one or more of the above traits of immaturity in marriage, then you need to work on yourself.
Ayodele Adegbulugbe
Lagos,Nigeria
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