This article looks into some of the topics that should be discussed in a Christian courtship preparatory to laying a solid foundation for a successful marriage guided by biblical principles.
Many people across the world, Christians inclusive, have a distorted opinion about courtship which has a negative impact on marital stability. Any Christian courtship conducted outside biblical principles is sowing seeds for future marital distress.
In the context of this article, a Christian is described as a person who has surrendered the totality of his life to the leadership of the Lord Jesus Christ.
He has accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior, and the Bible as final authority in all matters. He is determined to abide by all biblical instructions whether convenient or inconvenient.
A Christian courtship is the period that a Christian brother and sister with a view to marry based on conviction, start a relationship for the purpose of knowing and understanding themselves better.
The process of understanding each other comes by diligent study, discussions and careful observation. These days, many people including Christians enter into courtship in a careless manner without knowing how to conduct themselves in it to glorify God in it.
The wrong things many people do in Christian courtship either out of ignorance or outright disobedience to biblical authority include:
Having sexual intercourse which amounts to sin. Sex during courtship creates a false bond which makes one partner to be blind to the faults and weaknesses of the other.
Pecking, kissing, caressing and fondling each other (appearances of evil).
Meeting at odd hours in dark and lonely places, behind closed doors.
Inviting third parties to settle their misunderstanding.
Living together as live-in-lovers, cooking for the man and washing his clothes
Wearing the same type of clothing and addressing each other as 'wife' and 'husband'. The courtship is ,a fiance/fiancee affair and not yet a marriage.
Not having truthful discussions about past personal experiences (contrary to the biblical principle of nakedness)
Failing to discuss the necessary ingredients that lays a solid foundation for the marriage which is the future of the courtship
Planning elaborately for the wedding which is a one day ceremony while failing to plan for the marriage which is a lifetime affair.
In conclusion, a successful Christian courtship that will translate to a successful marriage which will stand the test of time and overcome the storms in marriage must be based on biblical guidelines (Matthew 7:24-27).
Ayodele Adegbulugbe
https://selar.co/l341
https://selar.co/l341
www.xtianrace.blogspot.com.ng
Lagos, Nigeria.
Phone:+2348035978352
Phone:+2348035978352
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